In this blog we will continue to address the negative effects of alcohol on families and society. If you have not read the first 10 installments, I recommend going to the onlinealcohlclass.com blog for review.
In previous entries we have looked at alcohol consumption during pregnancy, the adverse effects on both young and school-age children, and today we will continue to look at the effects of alcoholism on children of alcoholics (COAs). As reported in allpsych.com.
Some COAs have such behavioral problems as lying, stealing, fighting, and truancy. These children live in extremely unstable home environments. They never know what to expect from an alcoholic parent. Because they are unable to predict their parent’s mood, they don’t know how to behave themselves.
Just like non-alcoholic spouses, COAs think they can stop their alcoholic parent from drinking by hiding liquor, or by pleasing the parent with good grades in school. They may tiptoe around the house while the alcoholic parent sleeps, hoping not to awaken the drunken person until enough time has passed for the alcoholic parent to “sober up”. Children of alcoholics feel guilty for their failure to save their parents from the effects of alcohol.
As I continuously harp - it is not worth ruining the lives of your children by being a drunk. How do I know? Because I have been there and done that. I can assure you, that if you decide, once and for all, to leave alcohol in your past, you and your family will be in a much better place.
This is the third in a series of blogs looking at the importance of minor in possession (MIP) classes for our nation's youth. In the prior blogs, we discovered that children, 10 and under, understand how dangerous alcohol and drugs are, and were committed not to use them. However, we also saw the record number of adolescents using alcohol, marijuana, and prescription drugs. This is a sad reality!
To what do you attribute the use of alcohol and drugs among teens after those same kids vowed to never use them as children?
As onlinealcoholclass.com rolls out its Michigan MIP class, I speak directly to those in East Lansing, Ann Arbor and Detroit. What are you personally doing to keep your children from trying drugs and alcohol?
These days it isn't enough for a parent just to be a good role model. The sad reality is that the internet and their peers have a great influence and so parents must be proactive. Clearly defined expectations and ongoing communication is critical. Staying involved with your teenagers and getting to know their friends, their choices, their likes and dislikes. Knowing how they spend their time online and which sites they frequent. What social media are they involved in?
Since the internet is interactive it is different than television. So, teenagers are growing up in a different world. The internet is also changing so rapidly that it can be challenging to keep up. Especially, if you are not computer savvy.
This is why I encourage all parents to enroll themselves and their children ages 10 and up in onlinealcoholclass.com's Michigan MIP course. Here is a link. Take the course together and discuss the information.
As a person whose childhood was affected by alcoholism and who became an alcoholic, I can attest that consuming alcohol can ruin your life. Alcoholism affects not only the person drinking, but everyone he comes in contact with, especially his family.
This is a series of blogs which look at how alcohol has a ripple effect. It not only affects the person who is drinking, but it has lasting effects on children and families. As reported in allpsych.com.
Older children of alcoholics may show depressive symptoms, obsessive perfectionism, hoarding, keeping to themselves (isolation), or being excessively self-conscious. Studies show that children of alcoholics feel that they are different from other people (and often ashamed of their family situation) so they develop a poor self-image. Many teenage children of alcoholics develop phobias as a way of coping with the chronic stress and anxiety they have no control over.
To this list of possible traumas add the fact that children of alcoholics are a lot more likely to become alcoholics themselves. I don't know about you, but I do not know one alcoholic or drug-addicted parent who wishes their disease upon their children.
Children of alcoholics (COAs) have more trouble in school. In addition to the stressful environment at home that may prevent them from studying, their school performance can suffer from an inability to express themselves.
Do you know a child whose life is being adversely affected this way? Is their parent trying to seek help? What can you do about it? If you care about this person and this child, I suggest you stand up and say something. Have them read the blog here at onlinealcoholclass.com. and hopefully they will be encouraged to take a 16 hour alcohol awareness class to help themselves and their children.
Onlinealcoholclass.com is proud to present it's Minor In Possession class or MIP Class.
While the vast majority of those who sign up for onlinealcoholclass.com's Michigan MIP class are court-ordered to do so, it is quite often a proactive parent or teacher, who are vital in getting a teenager to take our course.
Teens are using alcohol, marijuana, and prescription drugs in record numbers now. Marijuana use is rampant, so it is cleat that the anti-alcohol and anti-drug message is not getting across.
However, if you dive one level deeper, looking at youth under the age of 10, you realize that there is a very strong anti-alcohol and anti-drug message. As a counselor for both in-class and online alcohol classes, I am a regular speaker at schools around the country. At a recent speech for third graders, I knew the message was coming through loud and clear when every student said that alcohol was bad for them and they were never going to drink. This bought be great joy.
The message is out there, but somewhere between middle school and high school, it gets lost and ignored. Why do you think that is? Your input is important to us.
If you would like more information on any of our classes, please contact us by clicking the link below.
Has your family been negatively impacted by alcohol. The odds are pretty good you have. It has been estimated that 25% of all families have been affected by alcohol and alcohol-related incidents.
This is a series of blogs looking at alcohol and its disastrous effects on families. As reported in allpsych.com.
Why an Expectant Mother Should Not Drink
Research has proven that alcohol consumption during pregnancy has a strong chance of affecting the fetus. Did you realize that a mother's blood-alcohol concentration is passed directly to the fetus?
In general, the more severe the mother’s drinking problem during pregnancy, the more severe the symptoms of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) in infants. Babies born with FAS are shorter and underweight compared to normal babies. They have deformities of the brain and skull, and very characteristic facial features such as small eye openings; thin upper lips; long, flat faces; and a long groove in the middle of their upper lips. These children’s central nervous systems are also damaged.
Children with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome have difficulties in learning, attention span, judgment, memory, problem-solving, and frequently behavior problems. Children with FAS may also have problems with social skills. Their frustration easily turns to anger as they grow older. These children are hyperactive – unable to sit or stand still for a long time. They are often impulsive, poorly coordinated, and have impaired speech and hearing.
Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and its effects are permanent, often leading to lifelong problems with mental retardation.
Again, as I asked in a previous onlinealcoholclass.com blog, is it really worth it to take a chance drinking during pregnancy? What are your thoughts? We will continue to look at the harmful effects on the body and family in the next blog entry.
We are so happy to announce our minor in possession (MIP) class here at onlinedrugclass.com. There are two primary ways we can help keep our beautiful youth stay away from drugs - strong parental influence and drug education classes.
Let's start with the most important thing - parental guidance. Keeping your children off of drugs begins at home. Role modeling good behavior in our internet culture is not enough. The internet portal is very powerful and other factors such as good communication, clear expectations, and being involved with your teenagers and their friends are very helpful. Parents need to teach their teenagers how to "feel good" without using alcohol. They need to discuss how to say "no" to friends and how to avoid situations where they feel pressure. Teenagers live in a different world and it's important for parents to be tuned into that world. Know who your children hang out with. Get savvy with the internet so you know what they are being influenced by online. Have regular discussions about using drugs including prescription drugs which are very problematic these days. Discuss their need to be stimulated and teach them how to be "quiet" without all the input.
If you take or use drugs, it will be a double standard and in their eyes, a free pass. Teenagers have a watchful eye but tend to take extra risks.
The second form of drug prevention occurs outside the home - in drug awareness and MIP classes. These classes reinforce the message from the home with solid information as to the dangers of drug use and abuse. The goal is to discourage our children from experimenting with drugs in the first place. The classes are a good way to open the communication between you and your teenager. Be proactive while they are still open to your influence or they will take a class simply to appease you.
If you or someone you care about has a problem with drugs, seek help. If you prefer to maintain anonymity take an online MIP class. Just follow the link below or contact us with any questions.